Last post on www.sobipolar.com we focused on the manic symptom of irritability and anger, now moving onto…
Mom and dad, you can stop reading now, as well as anybody who doesn’t care to know about my sexual life!
Perhaps it is my lifetime of Catholic schooling, but I admit that the topic of hypersexuality makes me want to run for the hills. Hypersexuality is a symptom of bipolar disorder that often goes unmentioned, precisely because I think it is embarrassing. This is why I am shining a light on hypersexuality today.
Bipolar hypersexuality could make a hormonal 16 year-old boy blush. Extramarital affairs, dangerous and risky sexual behaviors are all results of hypersexuality.
To put into perspective what I mean by hypersexuality, I will draw upon my own personal experience. Let’s assume the average woman thinks of sex ten times a day. I would guesstimate that when I am in a bipolar hypersexual state of mind that I think of sex close to 300 times in one day, and it is possible to orgasm upwards of twenty times per day. It feels like my mind and body are completely consumed with all things sexual. Truth-be-told that I am not like this on a regular basis. I would say that I am exactly average in those regards. I personally have had only two hypersexual manic phases in my life, and that is two too many for me.
These sexual thoughts are not thoughts that I would ever normally think of. I can see how one could easily be inspired to have an extramarital affair if their bipolar manic symptoms are not treated, despite being in an otherwise healthy marriage. It is as if the brain has been replaced by some kind of awful porn re-runs that is only motivated by sex.
For those of you who think that hypersexuality sounds fun or exciting in anyway, I implore you to rethink. I wouldn’t say it is the worst bipolar symptom, but it makes everyday life a considerable challenge. Completing even menial tasks is next to impossible since almost everything makes the manic brain want sex, and want it now.
Hypersexuality can also cause major destruction in relationships for obvious reasons. The manic brain is not a stable brain, therefore it does not think clearly. Thus, when the manic brain thinks it is a good idea to leave family to pursue prostitution, it becomes dangerous and destructive for all involved. These “good” ideas are not something to laugh at. They are usually completely out of character for the person and are a very real problem for some people living with bipolar disorder.
This concludes our six part “exploring mania” series. Next time, we will begin to explore the depressive side of bipolar disorder.
** As always, please remember, I am not a doctor. Just a so bipolar lady with a computer. 😉 So if you suspect you or someone you know has bipolar disorder, always consult with your physician or psychiatrist first.
I’m so bipolar, and unashamed.