The 5-Step Bipolar Manic-Plan for Married Couples

9FFA08A7-79D4-48D1-AAC9-11E4F3B006AFJust as we have fire-plans incase of a fire, so should we have manic-plans incase of mania.

During a time of stability a married couple needs to discuss what happens in the event of mania. Here is a 5-step sample start-up plan:

1. Call your psychiatrist for information on emergency meds that you have in place (especially in cases of psychosis, not sleeping, or if you feel he/she is a danger to his or herself or others). As always, if the situation permits, take him/her to the emergency room.

2. Credit cards/online account passwords need to be taken away or temporarily stopped if the person with bipolar goes on spending sprees. Nothing will bring on marital troubles more than huge piles of unnecessary debt.

3. All social media account passwords should be changed. So be in the know of passwords. While manic, social media posts can have devastating and embarrassing consequences.

4. Call in as much positive support (family, friends, coworkers) as possible, and let your support system know what will happen in the event of mania. Who will watch the kids? Can you have meals delivered to your home? Who will cover for you at work so that you can stay home with your spouse? Have a short-term and long-term plan.

5. The person with bipolar (during stability) should record themselves on video explaining why they chose to do all of the above steps and how this is for their own good. Their spouse can show him or her the video as a reminder during mania.

The above is only a sample plan. I wrote it in hopes that you and your spouse will put together a plan that fits your own flavor of bipolar and life. The bottom line is that when we are well-prepared we don’t feel so blind-sighted. We have a better chance of controlling bipolar, versus bipolar controlling us.

Do you have any more suggestions?

10 thoughts on “The 5-Step Bipolar Manic-Plan for Married Couples

  1. I get so dominating and sneaky when I am manic there seem to be nothing that works to stop me from venturing into acting on streams of bright ideas, life changes and new business ventures that race through my head. I can be really convincing too, and often have been able to take the whole family ‘on board’ for a brief high and then a crashing course right down the debt, embarrassment and disappointment alleys – and everyone suffers. A need of ‘creating’ is just overpowering… sometimes it’s little things, like suddenly making shopping bags out of scraps of plastic wrappers and old carrier bags (yes sustainable living AT ALL COSTS also became my (our!) new thing), madly sewing until 3:00am and still getting up at 7:00am to get kids to school and my sorry ass to work… Sometimes is ordering new things online for my newest business venture, while university work deadlines are just pilling up (yes, going back to University -again! – with two kids, a job, a dog and million little business ventures was another one!)…Starting new things and never finishing them up seem to be my thing… I can act with the speed of light when I am manic and it is a struggle for a family to catch up, sometimes by the time they realise what I am up to, things have gone too far and cannot be reversed… As membership renewals I do not even remember I have taken up reappear on my statements after a year I am often on a ‘low’ and shamefully hide them, as I cant deal with finances, charges, late payments and a guilt of creating it all … Yet, when they stand against me, as I rise again I never hesitate to ‘pull the big guns out” threatening them with arguments of ‘dragging me down to depression”, “not believing in me”, “not loving me”, “not supporting me”, “not contributing into my efforts of trying hard to rectify our financial situation”, or just “this is it I am out”… and they surrender, I suppose to keep me safe… I win… and we all lose at the same time😔 Still none of us can figure out how to overcome that😞

    1. I too was manic most of 2017. I love being manic, but no one else does and we pay for it later. I started some meds in January that have helped my manic phases, but I’ve been struggling with depression and that “middle of the road,” feeling. I can read your comment and totally relate. Blessings from one to another.

    1. A Second Journey, thank you for the compliment, but our Gal who has this SoBipolar site gave us the 5-step information above. 🙂

  2. When i get in the stage i usally smoke grams of pot is this bad r not i dont like taking meds it makes me feel like a zombie

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